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Man, let’s say you’re at a party, yeah? And there are people at the party that prefer cake, and people at the party who prefer pie, so the host serves both. Alright, cool.

So you go in for a slice of pie, when suddenly the host CHARGES over and goes “WOAH WOAH WOAH WHAT THE FUCK ARE YOU DOING?”

“I’m having some pie, man, chill.”

“What the hell? I thought you had cake last time.”

“Yeah, I did have cake last time. But I’m not feeling the cake tonight. And this is my favorite kind of pie.”

“Ohhh no. I thought you were a CAKE person and now all of a sudden you’re eating pie on me? You’re confusing me! Make up your mind!”

“What’s the big deal, even? There’s plenty of both for everyone.”

“YOU CAN’T LIKE BOTH CAKE AND PIE. YOU HAVE TO CHOOSE.”

But man, fuck that guy, I’m going to have the pie anyway, who cares if I had cake last week.

And then if that pie is so good that I never want any other dessert for the rest of my life, that doesn’t mean I suddenly never liked that cake that I ate.

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tumblr user firegrowshigher, in response to a tweet saying “Im not homophobic but i hate bisexual people with a PASSION! Like make up yo mind do you like penis or vagina? Its that simple” (via lemonyfreshvictory)

This may be one of the best analogies for biphobia I’ve ever seen.

(via sketchyfletch)

I SEE WE ARE STILL HAVING THE HEATED CAKE VERSUS PIE DEBATE!

WHY CAN’T I JUST LIKE BOTH?

CAKE AND PIE HAVE DIVIDED THE WORLD.

(via ouyangdan)

ALL OF THE CAKES! ALL OF THE PIES! ALL OF THE TIME! YEAH!

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This is Only a Test: I have changed my stance on Abortion.

iwikty:

kungfucarrie:

diwata—jones:

I was pro-life to the core, but today really changed my thoughts on it.

My Godmother came to town yesterday to talk to me because I needed advice on a personal topic. When my father asked her what we talked about, she lied and said that it was about my future career goals and…

It really skeeves me out when fathers are weirdly possessive of their daughters’ bodies. I always hope that having daughters might open their eyes a bit.

Carrie, Google is not my friend today, but I remember reading something on Jay-Z about his views on women changing now that he has a daughter. I don’t remember if it was speculative or in response to something he said. The closest thing I could find was a study I remember hearing on “transformative” motherhood that suggests dads only change their mind on marijuana post-child, but I don’t think it was comprehensive for men.

Anecdotally, when I told my dad that my friend thought it was inappropriate that my boyfriend slept over while he (dad) was visiting, he wrote me a letter that said he had never owned my sexuality or my body and he certainly didn’t own it now. So as long as I wasn’t asking to have him be in the room, anything I wanted didn’t require his approval.

For the OP, yay! Thinking about things through the lens of autonomous choice (instead of my personal morality) really changed my thoughts on many issues.

I believe this is the article iwikty referenced. (The study itself I’m not 100% sold on. What are they talking about women with more testosterone have more boys? Is there new research about X & Y chromosomes? And also, women who have boys can have increased levels of testosterone…ANYWAYS…)

I think spending time with anyone different from you can influence your worldview. Spend time and develop friendships (or have relatives) who are gay or lesbian or trans* or genderqueer and you will likely find yourself more sympathetic to LGBT*Q rights. 

Conversely, spend all of your time* with closed-minded people who don’t think anyone deserves rights, have racist attitudes, and you’ll find yourself more likely to share those opinions.

*I realize that especially for teens and young people, and for anyone without the resources, you don’t always have a choice who you spend time with. 

EDIT because it would have been helpful to actually link the article

why Joani decided to write books about sex for kids

notablankbook:

Back in the 80s, Joani wrote The Playbook for Kids About Sex and then A Kid’s First Book About Sex.  They’re kids’ books all right, written around a first or second grade level, and they don’t talk about where babies come from.  There’s plenty of books about that.  Instead, these books talk about privacy, body parts, nudity, different kinds of touch, and even intercourse.  They’re available for free download on her website.

Why did Joani write books about sex for kids?  Her answer, paraphrased in the form of a bulleted list because I think they’re easier to read:

  1. A very wise person once observed that when little kids ask where babies come from, we tell them about sex.  When older children ask about sex, we tell them about reproduction.  Think about that.

  2. Related to number one, by the time we get around to talking to older kids about sex, it’s all about the negative stuff: diseases, unplanned pregnancies, that kind of thing.  I wanted to give kids something positive to build on.

  3. Parents have a lot of issues and awkwardness around talking to their kids about sex, so I wanted to give them a tool they could use to distance themselves and allay some of their anxieties.  These books are based not on telling kids what we think they need to know, but rather on asking questions on how the children feel about certain topics.  And parents don’t even have to think up the questions themselves.
"The sex drive of men is something we are all comfortable with in this country. It’s funny and hormonal and slapstick (American Pie), it’s potentially uncontrollable, maniacal/homicidal (American Psycho), it is adulterous and is insatiable (American Beauty), it is fun and social (American Graffiti) and it is entrepreneurial (American Gigolo). But women? No. NC-17. XXXX. Stop it with the moaning."
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riese (via fuckyeahautostraddle)

wow i forgot about this essay

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Tags | sex | sexuality | mpaa | ratings |
Slut-Shaming: A Small Facet to the Bigger Picture of “Sex-Shaming”

liberal-antics:

I would like to start off by saying I rarely use the term “slut-shaming.” Here’s a couple reasons why: 

  • Not every person who has sex and enjoys it has reclaimed the word “slut.” It assumes everyone is comfortable with referring to themselves as such, but that’s not true. 
  • People have negative connotations with the word “slut,” which makes them less receptacle to accepting “slut-shaming” as a bad thing. Yes, this point coddles people who are ignorant and generally controlling when it comes to people’s sex lives, but it’s true. People are more willing to admit they are shaming a person for sex if they are shaming a person who’s a “slut.” 
  • “Slut-shaming” only encompass one aspect of the sexual spectrum. The cis female hetero side. There is a whole wide range of sexuality and sex habits that get bashed and shamed; this is only representative of one. 

This is why I like and use the term “sex-shaming.” “Slut-shaming” only provides a narrow view of a bigger but equally perpetuated problem, that problem being narrow mindedness about sex. 

From what I’ve observed, people who “slut-shame” do not just shame women who have lots of sex; there are usually other “unacceptable” sexual acts that they shame. Here’s some that I’ve noticed on Tumblr and out and about in “real life:”

  • Teen sex*
  • Homosexual sex
  • Premarital sex*
  • Sex between legally married homosexual couples
  • Sex not for procreation* 
  • Sex that is not “vanilla”*
  • Anal sex*
  • Sex with multiple partners* 
  • Sex with multiple partners at once*
  • Oral sex* 
  • Sex resulting in unwanted pregnancy, which may or may not result in abortion*
  • Sex resulting in multiple unwanted pregnancies, which may or may not result in multiple abortions*
  • Sex without protection*
  • Sex with protection*

* indicates that this category is applicable to any gender identity and any sexual preference. 

When I see someone who “slut-shames,” I see extra reasons behind the shaming, like the ones listed above. It’s not just female sex (though it is attacked more often, and I can see where that leads to the term in question) but there is so much more to “slut-shaming” then what is discussed.

It is often rooted deeply in a misguided moral compass, which points to ONE type of sex as being “acceptable,” and anything outside of that specific set of qualifications is deemed “unacceptable.” Normal sex between a married, heterosexual couple for the means of procreation is what is set as the “acceptable” parameters for sex. People who sex shame often shame people who are not married, not intending to create children, and usually do not accept any kind of sexual relationship between homosexuals. This opens multiple categories of sexual experiences to be shamed or deemed “immoral,” and there’s usually a combination of two or more included in the reasoning behind why a person is shaming sex. 

Slut-shaming is definitely a problem, one that we on Tumblr and in life should be and usually are willing to address. Women should not be shamed just because we like and have sex. But in addressing the evils of slut-shaming, we cannot forget the evils of the shaming of sex in general, and the harmful nature of the way that it is perpetuated in everyday life; no one should be shamed because like and have sex. 

Interesting views & ideas to consider, which I haven’t before.

I will say that when I use the term ‘slut shaming’, I’m not using it to say that the person(s) being shamed are or should reclaim the word slut. I’m using it to say that the people doing/saying slut (or sex) shaming things are projecting the image of “slut” onto the former. I want to see the concept of ‘slut’ dismantled, because I personally don’t think or believe there really is such a person, it’s just a word used to control (usually) women.

Thoughts tumblrsphere?

(Source: raging-liberal-hard-on)

I’m glad I saw this. Because it reminded me that I wanted to point out how much House completely failed with their side story about asexuality last night.

It starts with Wilson mentioning he’s treating a patient who is asexual. Then House claims that no one is really asexual and sets about proving it. And the (*spoiler alert*) result is that this dude just has a brain tumor that’s suppressing his sex drive and causing erectile dysfunction. And then his wife is all “oh, btw, I was just pretending to be asexual because I love you so much but really sex it like totally fun!”. 

Way to completely dismiss an entire group of people House writers. 

(Source: takeawalkaround)

"There is an argument that it’s OK to draw women in this hyper-idealized and sexualized way, because male characters are idealized too. The difference is, more often than not, women are idealized primarily in a sexual manner, and men are idealized in a way that emphasizes power and strength. These are not the same thing, and send a distinct message to the reader whether you realize it or not. I guess my overall point is just to think about what you’re drawing, and why you are drawing it."
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Jamie McKelvie, Female Super-Hero Characters and Sex (via elliottmarshal)

“These are not the same thing”

Should not have to be explained, but THIS. 

Tags | comics | sexuality |
"Ask ten adults to define a slut and you’ll hear things like: a woman who has sex with lots of men; a women who sleeps around; a woman who has casual sex; a woman who flaunts her body. They’ll probably also use words like loose, easy, trashy, cheap and desperate. Someone might say: a woman who has the sexual appetites of a man. No one will say: a mythical creature dreamt up by people who are jealous of or threatened by female sexual expression."
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Emily Maguire- Princesses & Pornstars (via missrockmeup)

This is the best definition of slut I have ever, ever heard/read: a mythical creature dreamt up by people who are jealous of or threatened by female sexual expression

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